People’s narrow-mindedness reflects far more upon them than on their targets — but being able to claim the moral high ground might not count for much if you’re in their cross-hairs.

I look forward to the day when people truly are free to express themselves and be themselves without fear of censure or ridicule. And this gives me incentive to develop more respect and tolerance in my own life.

Michael,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I would agree that standing on top of the mountain secure with the moral high ground can seem hollow when there’s a big bulls-eye on your back, but at least it’s a start. I think, and this is something I’ve noticed and become more sensitive to over time, that there tends to be a real disconnect for people when they enter cyberworld, meaning that they seem to forget everything they know about manners and civil behavior the moment they cease to exist in the corporeal world and begin to interact with people in the digital realm. It seems as tho being anonymous and engaging in subterfuge has become more convenient for some. It’s very easy to forget that this digital world is populated by the same people we all are when the computer gets turned off.

Tolerance in life is very important, but we have to be careful about drawing the line between intolerance and standing up for principles. Some things are simply just wrong, and shouldn’t be accepted by anyone. I’ve always believed that reasonable and smart people can disagree and still maintain a measure of civility. Sadly, that doesn’t always happen out here.

I was really surprised to learn that Stop Cyberbullying Day actually existed! I had no idea that the problem was this widespread.

Thanks again for your input,

xoxo,
nina

Have a lovely spring weekend, dearest Nina. Thanks for the pointer to BlogHer, which I’d never heard of… hmm… does that mean I’m not a woman who blogs? ;-) I shall spend a leisurely half hour with a glass of wine, exploring their site.

~hugs~, Geisha

orchidea xxx

What an excellent post Lazy Geisha - I have just discovered your blog! It’s great that you’re drawing attention to this, as cyberbullying seems sadly common, particularly amongst anyone whose sexuality differs in some way from the norm, however one defines that.

I know of many blogging courtesans and escorts who have been on the receiving end of this type of behaviour, whether it’s unpleasant comments on their blogs, or nasty emails, or gossip on message boards. Whilst I think sometimes people leave unkind messages out of ignorance or the inability to comprehend a difference in sexual outlook, it seems to more often result from jealousy and insecurity. Perhaps one of the saddest things to me is that it often comes from other women in the same profession.

I hope you will keep writing despite the cyberbullies - remember the delete button, preferably before reading! :-)

I will very much look forward to your next posts…

Livvy xxx

I like it when you show all your new posts on front page. I sometimes forget to look off to the side and see that there are new entries elsewhere.

Good to hear things seem to be better for your friend.

Along with watching “Take the Lead” to get in the mood for your party, check out “Dirty Dancing 2 - Havana Nights”.

Have fun :)

Silence

orchidea,

Thank you sweetheart! We worked outside in the yard today. It’s been an absolutely beautiful day! I hope you enjoy BlogHer. They’ve got some great articles and forums over there! :biggrin:

xoxo,
nina

Livvy,

Thank you so much for those kind words! It really is a much more common problem than many realize. Several newspapers here in the US have run articles that call attention to this issue. Tho, I’m not entirely sure if it follows lines of sexuality. It seems to mimic a clique like behavior where for whatever reason the targets of such abuse are deemed unworthy, undesireable or unwanted by whichever group nominates itself to make those rules for the rest of us. Hard to say what the real cause is, but I suspect it has a lot to do with jealousy and insecurity on the part of those who make it a habit.

In my case it’s been rumors. Lots and lots of ugly rumors. But I’m a big girl, I can take it, and I can hold my own ground when I have to.

And thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I’m happy you enjoy my humble home here, and I plan to keep on writing!

Thank you again!

xoxo,
nina

JW,

Well everyone seems to agree with you! lol! I changed my mind (yet again) and put things back on the front page. I guess this means that I’ll have to put more thought into how I present things. But thanks for your input sweetie!

xoxo,
nina

silence,

:biggrin: lol! My secret is out! Yes, Take the Lead was the inspiration for the Sex on Hardwood themed party! But oh wow, does Antonio Banderas just do it for me! He’s YUMMY drop dead gorgeous!!! lol! What I wouldn’t give for one night alone in his arms! Oh I’ve seen Havana Nights too! I love those movies and I’d love to be able to dance like that. It’s just pure sexual heat!

Thanks sweetie!

xoxo,
nina

“Yes, Take the Lead was the inspiration for the Sex on Hardwood themed party! But oh wow, does Antonio Banderas just do it for me!”

That has to be one of my top 5 favorite movies of all times. Especially that scene with poor Katlin almost drooling over how the other girl dances. How many of us have felt like the ugly swan?

And for the life of me, I can’t think of one thing Antonio could be doing, where we didn’t just oooze sex appeal.

S

silence,

Oh you’re so right! I think we’ve all felt like the ugly duckling/swan at one time or another. I know that scene, and wow, even I was envious! lol! I would love to be able to dance and move like that, but I think I’m too short!

Antonio… oh Antonio! Mmmm. I’ve named one of my dildos Antonio, for those extra special wickedly dirty fantasies that I’m struck with from time to time! :biggrin:

(Another is named Enrique for Enrique Iglesias! YUM! Yes, I like the Latin boys!)

And yes, I would cheat on my husband to be with Antonio or Enrique! (sorry baby, I hope you don’t read this!)

Thanks sweetie!

xoxo,
nina

So, whatever happened to “Sex on Hardwood”? And where were those generous contributions to Kate’s legal defense?

Odds are you’ll never post this, but you were indeed full of it when you posted all your baloney about Kate. I was the one who needed to go to an emergency room - the blood running down my eye was convincing enough. Kate was the assailant, and the domestic violence officer handling my case (a woman herself) had no trouble believing it when presented with the photos from each of our reports. That you would make light of such a situation and give misleading and incorrect information is shameful.

Kate and I have finally gone our separate ways. Our assets are divided, our divorce all over but the paperwork. I still have an order of protection against her, but she hasn’t attempted to violate it thus far - her mother would probably tan her hide if she did. She was the one who paid for her legal defense, not you, and certainly not the fictitious party you bragged that you would host.

I’m in a new apartment, living healthily - I gave up alcohol for the sake of my health, and it feels good. I used alcohol to drown my emotions, not wanting to feel the pain caused by the emotional neglect and physical abuse I tolerated from her over the years, thinking I didn’t have any other good choices, feeling trapped. That chapter of my life has closed, and I haven’t smiled as much as I have been lately since before my wedding.

I am free, and I am happy.

Just thought you and Jeff might want to know.

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