YouTube Tuesday:The stars at night… are big and bright!
Continuing with my current geishaland theme of sex toys and the joys of taking control of your own Big O… today’s YouTube Tuesday clip comes to you from the lovely Carol, along with this accompanying article about the ongoing war on sex toys here in the USA. The clip stars Molly Ivins, a woman and author / columnist who was a personal hero of mine, from the documentary Dildo Diaries, talking about how sex toys, specifically dildos, are illegal in the great state of Texas. In this clip you’ll see and hear some of the most hysterical legislative debate ever uttered in this great nation of sexual deviants, misfits and religious whackos. This clip has been around since 2002, but it’s always worth watching again, and in the event you haven’t seen it, you really need to.
Shocker: Did you know that if you’re in possession of six or more dildos in our current president’s home state that you’re considered a felon, you can and will be prosecuted, and you would likely go to jail? Well… I’d better stay the fuck out of the lone star state or I could be joining Paris in the pokey… or death row if they ever got their grubby paws on this girl’s sex toy drawer… and we haven’t even talked about what they’ll do to you if you get caught having butt-sex at The Alamo!
This is a great clip, with a great article too. Thank you Carol, dahling, for sending this my way!
So, okay, in the course of normal discussion yesterday and after a great comment from the sultry princesse.x, I responded with the notion of really becoming aware of just how many guys out there get all weird and willy nilly because their wife or girlfriend likes to use a dildo or vibrator. It would seem as tho we’ve actually got a minor crisis of sexuality here, namely our expression of our own libidinous horny selves bumping and grinding up against the expectations of our leading man or current bedmate.
This is something I’ve never done here in geishaland before… I’m asking for your help. If you’re a guy who feels a little intimidated, threatened, or miffed about the time your lady spends with her favorite sex toy, I’d like to hear from you; not to embarrass you or poke fun, but to try and understand where that comes from because I would truly like to know, and after, I’d like to write about it.
If you’re a likely candidate for this research project of mine, done in the geishaland spirit of absolute pure fun of course, then please email me at nina.aoki [at] lazygeisha [dot] com. Your confidentiality will be protected and your name will not be used… just like the Penthouse Forum letters.
name and address withheld by request!
Thanks! Enjoy the clip, read the article, and have a Happy Tuesday! :kissing:
1Mike
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 6:20
“Unreal” now Nina, I would be careful, being that President Bonehead is from the lone star state, you could be considered a terrorist, and they may look to bombing Boston for hiding Weapons of Man Destruction. Being stationed in Texas during the late 80’s early 90’s this seems to fit just right. Some of the most fucked up people I ever met. Not all, but put it this way. Go for a drink and there you go, your typical testosterone filled bar, everyone wearing jeans 1 size to small, with a shirt I wouldn’t polish my car with (too many rhinestones, they’ll scratch the paint) of course hanging over their big silver belt with a horse on it,cowboy hat optional, wearing their cowboy boots, I know why they all where boots. The bullshit that runs out of their mouths gets deep quick. You would think all were pornstars with all the sexual conquests, which leads us to why that law is in effect, Ego’s, can’t handle the truth, can’t handle that they can’t please their partner. So when Billybob finds out that Bobbysue has a little friend he doesn’t know how to react. I’ll call my big rich Uncle who’s an Oil Big wig and tell him, and he calls his buddy “W” and there you have it Nina, a state full of egotistical jackasses who can’t satisfy their women. Ok, maybe a little bitter about Texas, hey Doesn’t Rog’ live there….figures…or it could be the Religious right, don’t get me started on them…just stay the fuck out of Texas, we should give it back to Mexico anyway….Take care Nina.
Mike
2pile0nades
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 6:35
One thing’s for sure. I’ll never move to Texas. That was horrible and funny at the same time.
Love,
Gary
3saratoga
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 10:46
Nina-
No need for an email.
I have used sex toys on my ex-Mistress, and I loved it.
OK, I’ll probably skew your results. I actually preferred being ordered to strapon-penetrate XM, as she gloried in a large, permanently hard dildo inside her. She would, of course, add appropriately humiliating remarks about how nice it was to be able to rely on a constantly hard, never-soft cock.
Fact is, I love using one to penetrate my partner, and, of course, her using the same on me.
I love dildos. What can I say?
-saratoga
4Richard
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 12:05
Nina: Aint it awful to think that , this bullshit is alive and well in parts of this country???????I loved it, enjoyed and will share it with friends. Thanks Nna for bring it to our attntion. P.S. I lived in Texas for eleven years, and I know it’s true. It is just so bad in places.
5dinsdale_piranha
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 13:57
actually, I have purchased all of my wife’s sex toys. And WE would go to jail. However, my main pleasure is from watching her pleasure herself. I especially enjoy watching her enjoy them orally as well. Hmmmmm…. She loves to put on shows for me… Tasting herself…..
6nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 15:31
Mike,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me on this. lol! Well that’s something I didn’t consider! But, when we think about the state of the world and the state of things in this country, it wouldn’t be surprising for those ‘cowboys’ in charge right now to bomb all of us hedonists in the greater Boston area for our liberal views! Tho I never considered my black cyberskin dildo to be a weapon of mass destruction! Maybe a weapon of mass orgasmic pleasure but that’s about it!
I have never been to Texas so I’ll have to take your word on that one, but what I know of that state I don’t think it would be a place where I’d be very happy. Macho jackasses and golddigging women really don’t appeal to me, not to stereotype of course, but that’s what I hear.
It seems to me that states which make laws which try to govern the sexual behavior between consenting adults have bigger problems to worry about. And I thought we did away with those so called ‘sodomy laws’. I remember something I wrote a while ago (prior to my database loss) where I did some research on that topic. I think I have it saved somewhere. I’ll have to look for that.
Thanks hon!
xoxo,
nina
7nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 15:37
Gary,
Count me in on that one! If I live to be a very old woman with a cane and never get to Texas, I think I’ll be very happy!
I agree the clip is hysterical!
xoxo,
nina
8nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 15:47
saratoga,
Thanks for sharing that with me. Hmmmm, that’s very interesting. On some levels I can relate to your expression as a sexual submissive, without really being able to identify with a similar experience. So, for you, the humiliating aspect of being emasculated with the comparison of a dildo which is always hard and a real penis which responds differently, brings you sexual and emotional gratification?
I’ve received several emails already from different guys about this, and it seems that the idea of ‘penetration’ and who and what penetrates is an underlying pattern. That interests me greatly. You see, from my perspective as one who is always penetrated, that’s the core of my and every other woman’s sexuality. We get penetrated, we allow a man into our bodies, that’s who and what we are.
A strap-on allows us to emotionally get there, like if I were to use a strap-on with Lisa, then I’d emotionally be able to feel that sensation of control and penetration, but physically it’s something I can never do or experience.
Perhaps this is why dildos, which allow us to be in control of how and when we’re penetrated, are sometimes threatening to our partners. With a dildo, we’re no longer dependent on them to be penetrated.
Maybe it’s a more basic archetype. Hmmm, this has given me a lot of food for thought.
Thanks sweetie as always for such intelligent conversation! You’re the best! :kissing:
xoxo,
nina
9nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 15:56
Richard,
Yes, it is awful to realize that there are parts of this country which see fit to make laws designed to prevent women from expressing our sexuality, or even what consenting adults do with each other. Tho that’s such a common theme in the history of the world. Men have always sought to control a woman’s sexuality, and it’s almost ALWAYS because of religion. Without getting too far off topic, when you look at Middle Eastern countries where women can be and are murdered in honor killings, and where the practice of female circumcision (the forced removal of the clitoris) happens, these are just more examples of how men try to control our sexuality. Now just imagine someone cutting the head off your cock, and you can envision what these young girls in these middle eastern countries suffer thru, and all in some completely warped idea that’s intended to keep a woman faithful to her husband by denying her sexual pleasure. It’s sick.
Like I said, I’ve never been to Texas, and don’t really want to either! Especially since they could put me in jail for being more than a hobbyist!
Thanks hon!
xoxo,
nina
10nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 16:16
dinsdale_piranha,
You’re a good husband then! From the female point of view, I have to say that the internet and the ability to purchase sex toys online has made it a lot easier for us. Years ago the only place we could get sex toys were in novelty shops like Spencer Gifts (which sold a simple vibrator) or in a dirty book store.
What always surprised me about those ‘dirty book stores’ are that the people who shop in those places are almost always men. I mean, they go there to buy magazines, videos, watch peep shows, and those places almost always stock a small selection of sex toys, but when you realize that almost all of those toys are designed to go inside of us or be used by us, it never made much sense! But that’s begun to change where you now have retail stores which are ‘female friendly’ and are places where we can go and see what we’re buying before we spend the money. That in part is why I review sex toys, to try and help women and couples make better choices about what they spend their money on. You know, we want to see what a rabbit looks like before we spend 80 bucks!
I remember writing something a while ago (again before I lost my database) where I talked about going to my local adult video store in search of a black dildo. It was kind of amusing because this store in the redneck town I live in, only sold white ones! Maybe I’ll dig that piece up too. haha!
But to your other point; my husband also enjoys watching me play with my toys, in very similar ways… hmmmm…. have I stumbled across another similarity among males?
In fact, the other piece I’m writing deals with just that very subject! hahaha!
Thanks!
xoxo,
nina
11Carol
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 16:26
I have relatives in Texas, who actually chose to live there. Like, deliberately. ??? Every so often I get a comment or hint that I should move there. It’s a long drive to the border for a butt f*ck, not to mention which border do you aim for?
12nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 16:37
Hi Carol!
Thanks again for sending me these things! The timing couldn’t have been better!
You mean they ‘choose’ to live in Texas? Good lord! Well, maybe they don’t like sex toys or anal sex?
Hmmmm, which border? I’m thinking Mexico! Or maybe head for New Orleans! They’re kinky there aren’t they?
Thanks again sweetheart, this was perfect and it’s really helped me cheer up.
xoxo,
nina
13princesse.x
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 16:51
darling nina, thanx for plugging me ! hé hé !
I’d just love to be a willy nilly man just now to respond to your research. (how are you dressed ?) You’re so enticing and so wickedly fun !
Sooooo… some thoughts on sex toys. First the desire for them. Finding the right object of desire, imagining the feel , the design. Then the compulsive search for the lowest price ! And the delivery ! a surprise package which can be heavenly, or - a bit disappointing !
Possession : using the toy for one’s pleasure. Making a sacred home for it (one’s own treasure chest). And sharing it ! With a partner who may know your fantasies & give you a twist on them… Offering to share the pleasure, just like your favorite toy as a child. Playing games …
And giving one ! This may even be the best surprise ! Divination. In this case, a leather slave collar to my lover who wanted me to be Mistress for awhile… and then he’ll pull it out of his coat pocket to make me his slave ! A shared intimacy of accessories.
The ritual of cleansing, and hiding them away in secret.
Alice in Geishaland ! All things possible in love & respect.
one more kiss**
*X*
14nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 17:44
princesse.x
Of course darling! Thank you for being such a wonderful friend!
Well, the willy nilly men have actually been quite gracious, and I’ve received several emails with a lot of different views; many from guys who don’t have a real problem with sex toys but who have also offered a lot of insight into some of the potential hang-ups, and some have shed some other insight into the dynamics of how men view their role in the whole process of sex. (Good lord that sounds so clinical doesn’t it!)
Once again your comment delights me! You’ve weaved those threads together in such a lovely way, so please let me add to what you’ve shared with me.
The desire for them: Oh this is where the fun starts! When the desire for an object to help us find pleasure, either on our own or with our partners takes over! Sometimes it so much fun to pick out sex toys together and find things which you can both share and use with each other! Such toys can help us enact and explore our darkest fantasies! Especially things like bondage gear; a personal favorite of mine, or a special dildo. Mmmm….so much fun!
Possessing: Even tho I have a lot of different sex toys, there are certain ones which have become favorites, and yes, making a sacred home for them is so much a part of that too. I keep my special toys in my lingerie chest, and I always love when a toy has a velvet or silk bag to keep it safe! All of my njoy pieces have beautiful silk lined boxes and my new lelo nea came with a gorgeous silk pouch too! (my nea lives in my lingerie chest now too!)
Divination and Gifts: Oh yes! I’ve given two of my girlfriends rabbits as gifts and they absolutely love them! I think rabbits are a great wedding shower gift too. I mean, come on! Think about it! hahahaha! But you’re such a naughty girl too with your leather slave collar! How sinfully delightful! That’s one thing that I don’t own. I’ve never owned a collar, but it might be something to think about. I think a collar would have to be gifted tho… so maybe I’ll mention it to Jeff or Lisa! Mmmmm, this could get interesting!
Yes… All things in love and respect my sweet. All things.
Thank you so much for this! :kissing:
xoxo,
nina
ps - kahki shorts and a black babydoll! It’s hot here today!
15nina aoki
wrote on 12 June 2007 at 23:29
Because this came up in discussion here, I wanted to post a link to this article about a recent honor killing… this one right in the Western Hemisphere, in the UK.
Sad. Very, very sad.