Thank you so much for such a wonderful comment and for sharing your thoughts with me. There is so much here that I’m not sure where to begin. I think the biggest thing perhaps is what you closed with; a hope that more people learn what is and what is not a healthy relationship. So many people get into relationships for the wrong reasons, then they stay in these relationships for the wrong reasons and in the end all that’s left is two unhappy people. Violence is never the answer and I hope one day we will evolve as a society where we look for other ways to solve our problems.

Ah! Yes! A bright and shiny Mac is a good thing! Thanks sweetie!

xoxo,
nina

What I see is that children will take after one parent or another, but not necessarily the same-sex parent. Then we look for the person who is like the other parent. That is the relationship model we know. Of myself and my three brothers, two brothers are like my mom (passive, to be simplistic) and my other brother and I are like my dad (dominant). Of the four marriages, three were passive male/dominant female, and one was the opposite.

Funnily enough, Mom only “liked” the one wife and did not like the other two. She didn’t warm up to my ex, either. I think three of us were the opposite of what she thought was “right” for married people. :-)

This also plays into the previous topic about abuse. It’s well known that abusers were usually abused themselves - abused children can go either way or both, but are still looking at their parents’ relationship as a model.

I really can’t think of any relationship that is totally equal, there always seems to be some dom/sub aspect to it. Most people (I hope!) find the right balance with their partner. It’s normal, it’s healthy, and it works.

Anyway, as far as the abusive relationships go, there are women who physically abuse their male partners. But I think women are socialized to take out their aggression in more passive ways. I knew of one man who was poisoned (not fatally) by his ex-wife, for example. The woman is SUPPOSED to be passive, but she really is not, hence passive-aggresive.

I do hope more people will learn about what is and is not a healthy relationship, and that they will stop physical violence against people they supposedly love. I am grateful for the shelters, and for police learning that it can go both ways - it’s not automatically the man at fault.

Well, that was heavy… My Mac is bright and shiny! :-D

Oh I would agree, Firefox is a great browser, and we use the whole suite of Mozilla tools on all of our machines at home, but we may start using Safari, especially if this release is superior. I love Apple software and hardware, and I’m really excited about the release of OS X Leopard in October. The computer in my office that I use for work is the next machine we’re going to convert to Mac; probably when Leopard is released, and the way I see it, IE isn’t the only piece of MS software that “sucks balls”.

Oh no! You’re a Yankees fan? :cwy:

Well, the Sox aren’t exactly in a slide yet, but they did have trouble with the Oakland Athletics and the Colorado Rockies. They struggled offensively over the last two weeks, but they just swept three games against the Giants and it seems as tho their bats have come alive again. The Yankees seem to have got their act together and they’re hot right now, but they’re still 8 1/2 games behind Boston in the AL East and NY has just barely cracked the .500 mark for the season so far. But if both teams keep playing the way they have been, I think the best NY can hope for is a wildcard run, tho there is a lot of baseball left in this season, anything can happen.

The Sox left yesterday for their longest road trip of the season after they swept the Giants and they face the Atlanta Braves tonight in the first of a three game series away, then they go out to San Diego for three against the Padres in more interleague play, then they’ve got three in Seattle against the Mariners, then back home to Fenway for a series against Texas.

But you know, I’m a Red Sox fan… I’ll always believe in the team no matter how they’re playing! This generation of the Boston Red Sox is much different than teams of the past. The ownership group, the front office with Theo, and Terry Francona as skipper have made all the difference in the world. I don’t know how into baseball you are, but the Sox have adopted a lot of the Sabermetrics philosophy in running the team and it really seems to work. Plus I think Boston’s pitching is far superior to the Yankees. NY’s bullpen is a mess.

Thanks!

xoxo,
nina

lol! That’s cute. I’ve seen that blog before, and it’s usually pretty funny. I’ll have to go back and check it out again! Thanks hon! You always cheer this geisha girl up!

Mmmwwaahhh!

xoxo,
nina

Such a shame you’re a Red Sox fan. I’ll look passed that since I’m part of the “Evil Empire” Funny how the Red Sox begin their summer slide every year right around the same time The Yanks begin their surge. They just love the dramatic meeting at the end of the season. I’m going to start thinking this has been planned for the last 60 years.

Nina, Fake Steve Jobs explains it all here in The Secret Diary of Steve Jobs.

Pssst: the comments are amusing too as well as the IBM article and the Jon Ive is embarrassed articles. ;)

Hi sweetie!

See, as I was saying to saratoga, I don’t understand all of the negative press about Safari on Windows, and I completely disagree with this article. This isn’t about AT&T, this is about the iPhone.

I have work associates and colleagues who attended WWDC, and the big news which is being ignored by the tech media is the release of OS X Leopard just 18 months after the release of Tiger. Leopard has over 300 new features, many of which are extremely cool, and all of the developers got an advance copy of Leopard too, which doesn’t get released to the public until October. This is about developers being able to write Web 2.0 and Ajax apps for the iPhone and being able to test them with the Safari engine which is the exact same Safari engine being loaded into the iPhone. Tho, what has surprised me about Apple is they’ve locked themselves into a five year exclusive deal with AT&T (Cingular) which is not by any stretch the dominant wireless carrier in the US. Five years is an eternity, but Apple also did some iron clad patents on a lot of the iPhone technology. Tho, I’m sure someone will reverse engineer this thing once its released.

I’m excited about what’s going on with Apple these days!

Thanks sweetie!

xoxo,
nina

Hello sweetheart. Oh you’re very welcome. I recognize the process you’re going thru right now and I think it’s a healthy exercise and can be quite healing as well as revealing. (I did get your email and I’ll write back soon… I seem to be having a hard time lately with keeping up with all my mail)

Oh I disagree about Jobs. Apple has increased their market share significantly since the iPod became the ‘it’ device to have. We’re in the process of converting all of our machines at home to Macs – the next one to be switched out is my office computer. Since Apple created “Boot Camp” which allows you to switch between OS X and XP very easily, I can run my proprietary work software as well as my VPN applications for work side by side with my OS X applications. Apple has a huge installed base of their latest OS version which is Tiger, and Leopard is going to be a huge release.

I think there are a lot of things going on with Safari, and what’s surprising to me is how much negative press Apple has received on the Safari release. Basically releasing Safari to other platforms will allow developers to write apps for the iPhone. This is all about the iPhone and exposing Windows users to Apple software, and if you look at the numbers alone, people really are making the switch.

I mean, if you put OS X side by side with Vista, there’s really no question which one is superior, and since Macs are now loaded with Intel chips, this is all about increasing market share. It was strange tho, when Apple announced the Safari release, their stock dropped 4.10. Odd I think.

Thanks hon!

xoxo,
nina

Yes, that’s the one thing I actually miss about living in Florida. We had a condo in Juno Beach for about eight months before we had enough and came back to the northeast, tho I couldn’t plant there. My mother-in-law is still in Florida and she has a beautiful piece of property near the intercoastal which she landscapes nicely. She’s got a lot of flowering bushes rather than just flower beds. That seems to be what most people do down there. One of my favorite places in Florida, which I’m sure you’ve been to, is the Morikami Japanese Gardens which is in Delray Beach. They have stunning exhibits there! If you haven’t been it’s well worth a day trip if you’re into that kind of thing. It gave me a lot of ideas which I’ve tried to incorporate into my own gardens now. Another place my husband was crazy about was Vizcaya down in Miami. We went to a renaissance fair there once and it was like stepping back in time. Tho our favorite thing was driving down thru the Keys. I like visiting Florida, but I didn’t like living there!

As for the Sox, well they won last night against The Giants, and there are three more games at Fenway before we go on a long road trip starting in Atlanta to face the Braves.

So your wife can’t cook huh? lol! That’s funny. Well, I’m certainly no chef, but I do okay with some dishes. Let’s put it this way, my men don’t starve! :biggrin:

Thanks hon!

xoxo,
nina

Thank you sweetheart. You brought tears to my eyes with this. It’s so kind of you to share with me that I’ve inspired you in some small way, and your compliments truly humble me.

The garden is such a wonderful metaphor too, as well as being something which can bring us great peace and joy. I actually did some more planting yesterday! I can’t seem to get enough! I found some white New Guinea Impatients and some Figaro Dahlias which are multi-colored. Now I just need to keep my husband away from the rose bushes! Years ago when he was out working in the yard with his hedge clippers one day, he decided to “trim” one of my rose bushes! (Oh no!!) and it of course died within days! He’s learned to leave my garden alone since then! But this particular rose bush used to be right next to the pool and when it would lose its petals, they would fill the pool and float on top across the water! It was so beautiful! But, that was in our old house years ago. Oh well.

Thank you sweetie!

xoxo,
nina

The Seduction of AT&T: Why did Apple write Safari for Windows? Because their big customer wants it.

Thanks for your insightful comment on my blog yesterday. Yes, you are right, and I’ll be writing about the theme of your comment. I already did, in a sense, in the post about LadyL.

Re Apple’s browser for Windows, I don’t think Jobs realistically expects his computers to lure that many PC users.

Rather, he understands, and this is part of his genius, that the box wars are long over.

Now, his commanding the high ground via iTunes allows him to make the box irrelevant, and capture more paying usages via Apple software.

I loved that quote as well about ice water to people in hell.

xoxoxo

-saratoga

Much of what you’ve written since I’ve been visiting has ‘planted a seed’ somewhere inside me….and often flourished somewhere along the line. So thank you, sweet Nina, for helping so many of us grow right along with you.

lots of love and hugs xxx