Being Heard and Being Seen
Who and what we are is as different and unique as each of us – but the desire to have our voices heard is completely universal. Sometimes the desire to be heard becomes overwhelming, especially when it’s something we care deeply about or are particularly passionate about. Tho how we choose to express those things is also unique and individual. I have found my own voice thru my words – others take action and try and affect change from either within their own circumstance or in some other external way. There is no right or wrong here… as long as you find the strength to use your voice and be heard.
Being seen is a little more complicated. The greatest joy in life is when someone we love sees everything we have to share with them. Being seen means that person recognizes the beauty within us and cherishes that beauty. There becomes an unspoken connection between people who see each other – and it is in this moment where the true awesome nature of what love can be is completely expressed.
I have friends who struggle with both of these issues – being seen and being heard, and they can be both painful and difficult to deal with. Without betraying any confidences, I think it all comes down to knowing your own worth and believing in yourself. And when we do that, only then do we understand just how important a thing it is that we always are seen and heard for who and what we are, and to never allow those things to be taken from us, or surrendered to anyone.
Other Things
I finally started my toy reviews! My piece on Glass Sex Toys is posted here. And there’s a wickedly naughty gallery attached to that so be warned! :P
Today has been a quiet day at home: Stay Naked Sunday as I often like to call days like this – even tho I’ve spent most of the day in my short silk robe with the big pink flowers on it! I really haven’t moved off the loveseat since I got up. I’m feeling wholly unmotivated today even tho I do need to do some laundry later. 
I’ve been enjoying the new book I mentioned here called Fetish. There’s even a few things in there that I didn’t even know about! Who knew?
And I ordered two new books from Amazon the other day that I’m looking forward to. One is Women Loving Women: Appreciating and Exploring the Beauty of Erotic Female Encounters here and I also ordered the companion book Amazon recommends, Masterclass : Girl On Girl here! I so love Amazon! :smile:
They should be here sometime next week I imagine. Something to look forward to!
I seem to have settled into a quieter period, but writing always goes in cycles for me, so I just need to wait it out and I’m sure that the words will flow from me once again. I actually have a lot of ideas and I’ve been keeping a running list as they come to me.
So I think I’m going to keep my butt parked right here and enjoy the rest of my Stay Naked Sunday until one of the goons bugs me to cook them something to eat! :lol:
Enjoy the rest of your Sunday! :P
Sometimes the desire to be heard becomes overwhelming, especially when it’s something we care deeply about or are particularly passionate about. Tho how we choose to express those things is also unique and individual.
This is so true. Each and every one of us expresses these things in different ways. Recently I’ve come to realize how I go about this process. I wonder, though, if it’s a subconscious process or something we intentionally (have to) do?
Because in one particular personal case, the desire became so overwhelming that I questioned myself if I did it on purpose. If I intentionally did certain things because I needed at least some confirmation that this person still heard and saw me?
I’m sure from time to time we all say and do certain things because we need to be reassured. But in this case I honestly can’t remember consciously seeking answers. Yet I was confronted by two different people who both saw the same. To them it was so obvious I was trying to prove something. Unfortunately they thought I was trying to prove it to someone else, while I now realize I was only trying to prove something to myself.
The greatest joy in life is when someone we love sees everything we have to share with them.
Although it’s not often talked about, for me it is sort of a given that we all want to be seen, especially by the ones we love. After everything I’ve read here and the things I personally experienced in the past few months, I wonder if it’s something we need to actively pursue or just let it happen by itself. I always believed the latter is the right answer, but I’m not so sure anymore, not after being confronted. And when I look around I see so many people ‘trying’. I never thought I was a part of that group, but now I’m not so sure anymore. Maybe all of us are at some point in our lives. You said that once we realize how important it is to be seen, we should never let someone take it away. That implies action, yet I don’t know what one could possibly do to prevent it from being taken away? I might be taking your words out of context, but I’m curious because I always believed that being heard and seen was out of our own control.
Because as you said, believing in yourself is the most important thing here. I know this - but it’s hard to let go if you’re in a situation where the desire to be heard or seen is overwhelming every part of your life. I find myself wanting to take control. Control of something that *can’t* be controlled. You can’t make someone see you.